Life should not be a race. Let's try to make it a Journey of Love, Peace & Harmony…
"Everyone has an invisible sign hanging from their neck saying, 'Make me feel important.' Never forget this message when working with people." If practiced, this could be one of the most life-changing pieces of advice. In any relationship, whether it's a spouse, child, client, colleague, or casual acquaintance, the best way to make a lasting impression is to take the time to make others feel genuinely valued.
Here are four simple things that I follow to make others feel more important.
1. I Greet everyone I meet with enthusiasm.
Have you ever called someone on the telephone - or met them somewhere -- and they greeted you with such energy and enthusiasm that you felt they must truly adore you? A greeting of ardent and genuine enthusiasm sets the tone for your entire encounter.
It's such a simple skill (the hardest part is remembering to do it) but if you CAN remember, it will enliven all of your relationships. This skill can be particularly life-changing when practiced with your thick and thins.
2. I take the time in conversation to really listen,while someone is talking.
Relax and listen before responding. As you practice this form of deep listening, work on identifying the other person's needs. Put your own needs aside during the conversation and focus on determining what *they* need today. Imagine that each encounter is like a brief interlude in what may otherwise be a hectic day. Slow down and savour the connection you can make with another person, even in a casual conversation.
3. I Work on remembering the details of past conversations and encounters.
Ask about the things they confided to you.Hwz all at home ?.Hwz ur bro studies goin ?.It's often helpful to make little notes to remind you to ask about something or someone the next time you meet. This simple skill shows people that they are important to you.
4. I Appreciate the small things that people do for me and never pass up an opportunity to say thank you.
It doesn't have to be anything fancy...a few kind words or even a simple note is plenty. As you go through your day, be thinking of how you can take a step toward recognition and appreciation.
When you make the people around you feel important, you create a climate of trust and mutual appreciation, which can change your life in ways large and small. Try it today.
Remember:
People will forget what you said ...
People will forget what you did ...
But people will never forget how you made them feel ...
Saturday, August 23, 2008
Wednesday, August 20, 2008
Gandhi’s worst fears have come true
The Father of the Nation wanted to disband the Indian National Congress once it had outlived its raison d’etre of driving the British out of India. He felt that the best form of governance for India would be `swaraj’ (self-rule), by which Gandhi meant governance not by a hierarchical government but self governance through political decentralization and community building. But other political leaders of the time were least impressed by Gandhi’s idea of disbanding the INC or adopting Swaraj. Rather, the Congress Party went on to rule India ever since, except for an interregnum of 12 years when non-Congress combinations were in power. Contrary to Gandhi’s wishes, the Congress party’s leadership was usurped by the Nehru dynasty, which held the Prime Minister’s post for 33 out of 49 years when the Congress was in power. You can safely add four more years to the Nehru dynasty’s 33 year’s rule, given the fact that a member of the dynasty, Sonia Gandhi, is now the de facto prime minister, Dr Manmohan Singh being just her `mukhouta’ (mask).
Gandhi considered direct democracy as the best form of governance for India out of his conviction that a nation of India’s diversity, largely illiterate population and sparring leaders (Gandhi himself was heartbroken by the fights between Nehru and Patel) cannot successfully run a parliamentary democracy of the British Westminster model.
Perhaps, the biggest `achievement’ that we can crow about is the very survival of democracy in the country. Though Indira Gandhi suppressed democracy by clamping national emergency in 1975-’77, India never plunged into military dictatorship as Pakistan did.
Our economy is growing at 9 percent, but what is our record on `roti, kapda aur makan’ (food, clothing and shelter) after 61 years of freedom? A 2007 report by an official agency states that despite significant economic progress, 77% of Indians, or 836 million people, live on less that Rs20 per day. 300 million people live below the national poverty line(Rs10 per day). India has the highest rate of malnutrition among children. 170 million people in India live in slums, which account for 63 % of all slum dwellers in South Asia and 17 % in the world. The number of unemployed in the country has crossed 30 crore. India is home to the largest segment of illiterates in the world.
What throws a spanner in the works of the Government’s poverty alleviation and welfare measures is the rampant corruption in administration. Transparency International places India at rank 72(among 146 nations) in the global corruption index. Some Rs21000 crore is estimated to change hands in the form of bribery in India annually. The parallel economy is growing faster than the GDP. Black money not only deprives the government of tax revenues, but also prevents the resources allocated for public welfare from reaching the targeted sections.
The second biggest threat to the body politic, after corruption, is the criminalization of politics. To modify a Samuel Johnson quote, politics has become the first refuge of the scoundrels in India. The will of the people is subjugated by money and muscle power. Criminals gain legal immunity and respectability by getting elected to Parliament and State Assemblies. The politician-mafia nexus has turned the nation into a hotbed of terrorism.
Is this the freedom Gandhi fought for? The freedom to loot the nation’s wealth for personal benefit? The freedom to imperil national security by harboring criminals? The freedom to hold monopoly over wealth creation?
Well, Gandhi would have stirred in his Raj Ghat samadhi had he come to know of how we used and abused the freedom that he attained for us from the British!
Gandhi considered direct democracy as the best form of governance for India out of his conviction that a nation of India’s diversity, largely illiterate population and sparring leaders (Gandhi himself was heartbroken by the fights between Nehru and Patel) cannot successfully run a parliamentary democracy of the British Westminster model.
Perhaps, the biggest `achievement’ that we can crow about is the very survival of democracy in the country. Though Indira Gandhi suppressed democracy by clamping national emergency in 1975-’77, India never plunged into military dictatorship as Pakistan did.
Our economy is growing at 9 percent, but what is our record on `roti, kapda aur makan’ (food, clothing and shelter) after 61 years of freedom? A 2007 report by an official agency states that despite significant economic progress, 77% of Indians, or 836 million people, live on less that Rs20 per day. 300 million people live below the national poverty line(Rs10 per day). India has the highest rate of malnutrition among children. 170 million people in India live in slums, which account for 63 % of all slum dwellers in South Asia and 17 % in the world. The number of unemployed in the country has crossed 30 crore. India is home to the largest segment of illiterates in the world.
What throws a spanner in the works of the Government’s poverty alleviation and welfare measures is the rampant corruption in administration. Transparency International places India at rank 72(among 146 nations) in the global corruption index. Some Rs21000 crore is estimated to change hands in the form of bribery in India annually. The parallel economy is growing faster than the GDP. Black money not only deprives the government of tax revenues, but also prevents the resources allocated for public welfare from reaching the targeted sections.
The second biggest threat to the body politic, after corruption, is the criminalization of politics. To modify a Samuel Johnson quote, politics has become the first refuge of the scoundrels in India. The will of the people is subjugated by money and muscle power. Criminals gain legal immunity and respectability by getting elected to Parliament and State Assemblies. The politician-mafia nexus has turned the nation into a hotbed of terrorism.
Is this the freedom Gandhi fought for? The freedom to loot the nation’s wealth for personal benefit? The freedom to imperil national security by harboring criminals? The freedom to hold monopoly over wealth creation?
Well, Gandhi would have stirred in his Raj Ghat samadhi had he come to know of how we used and abused the freedom that he attained for us from the British!
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